How to be that girl at the party (without being that girl)

Think of that girl. We all have one in our lives. She walks in the room and it seems like there is a gravitational pull towards her. There are movies and books about her, countless songs. Everyone wants to be her but how?

Well guess what?! It’s actually very simple to be that girl. It has nothing to do with your appearance or aesthetic or how much money you spent at Sephora, despite the several billion dollar industries trying to convince you otherwise. To be that girl you just have to love yourself and exude that to everyone around you!

I know what you’re thinking “Okay well… that’s actually not simple at all!” And girl, I hear you. This is an instance where the advice fake it til you make it fit’s perfectly. Here’s a few simple steps on how to be that girl, loving yourself and all the folks at the party!

Step One: Act like you give a damn, even if you don’t. When you show up with a bad attitude, disheveled, and looking like a mess - it’s obvious. Put on your best fit, listen to a great playlist, get your vibes up. Walk into the room with the vibrancy you created when you woke up this morning. Make your bed, move your body, take the time to do your hair. The things that make you feel like you? That’s a good place to start.

Step Two: Actually just, shut up. All my love but if you’ve caught yourself saying nine sentences in a row to someone you’ve just met - you’re doing it wrong. The best conversationalists are the ones who know when to ask a question, listen carefully, and then follow it up with another thoughtful question. Nobody asks thoughtful questions anymore so when you do everyone is going to notice. Bonus points if you find someone who also asks you questions - not to play match maker but maybe get their number or something.

Step Three: Chill out. I promise you that nobody cares that you stumbled on your words, that there was a piece of kale in your teeth, or the fact that you were five minutes late. Everyone is too caught up on themselves to notice anything negative about you! It’s like Dr. Suess said “Those who matter don’t mind and those who do mind, don’t matter.”

Listen.. we’re all on a journey. Maybe showing up in a room of strangers and being yourself doesn’t come naturally to you. The good news is… if thats you, you’re in the majority. I promise you everyone’s faking it, especially that girl.